The ‘S’ word.

The world literally revolves around sex; yet most of us feel unease talking about the subject even to our partners. So why has sex become such a taboo subject?
We are ashamed of it: growing up our parents, society and church teach us that this subject is not to be discussed; they teach us the ugly and consequential side of having sex before we are married. Everything associated with sex has to do with Satan as it is dirty and immoral, right? Wrong. God actually created sex but people seem to forget that.
Moving on, people lack education on the matter. Most parents will not talk about this with their children as they believe their little angels will never think of such things until they are married, but in reality most people have sex before marriage and the amount of dirty things that go through kid’s minds…. Shocking :o
So let’s talk.
1. As cruel as this may sound, your first time is not likely to be magical and amazing like we all wish it to be. The more experience you gain, the better your sex life will become as you find out things you like and things you don’t. Don’t be shy to talk to your partner about it, they can’t read minds!
2. Don’t force yourself into having sex at a young age; chances are you’re going to regret it. You may think you’re in love with the person but it may just be infatuation.
3. Don’t have unprotected sex because you will get pregnant and die… not really but just don’t do it; you can get an STD as well as get pregnant.

Final summation… don’t be scared of the topic, the more you know the better it gets. No one can tell you if you’re right or wrong so narrow minded people are to be avoided under any circumstance.

Don’t lose your identity

Why do girls do a 360 when they’ve got a new boyfriend? It’s okay to be excited to have a new boyfriend and to want to spend all of your time with him but don’t neglect your friends. It’s your friends that will be there to support you through everything you do, and they will support you in your new relationship, but turning your back to them is not a good idea.

Pushing away your friends means that you have no one to help you through hard times, you’ll have no one to talk to when you argue with your boyfriend and even if your boyfriend is your new best friend, there are some things you just can’t tell him. If you’re going to have a night out with your friends after not seeing them in ages cause you've been so busy with the boyfriend, do not make him tag along. Show your friends that you can have fun without him and you haven’t forgotten about them. In the case that you break up with this boyfriend, who’s going to be there to help you through it? No one if you shove your friends off.

Sometimes, a friend may know something about your new boyfriend that isn’t pleasant; don’t ignore her and say she does it out of jealousy and spitefulness, just listen and you might find that you don’t really know the person you’re dating very well since he’s been lying.

Don’t try and turn into a copy of your boyfriend. Don’t start to smoke or do drugs or whatever it is that he’s doing just to impress him and to be able to say “oh we have so much in common!” just no -.-

Don’t stop doing something you love just because he does not approve; you’re your own person and he’s either gonna accept you the way you are, or you can show him to the door.

Jealousy

Jealousy is a common emotion amongst humans and it does not mean that it’s always a bad thing; it only becomes bad when it gets out of control. In relationships, it’s normal that people may get a little paranoid about where their partner is going or what happens when they’re not with their partner. Sometimes though, people become irrationally jealous and exaggerate their emotions making a big deal out of something that is truly insignificant.

I’m not going to tell you who to date, but from personal experience, some people become obsessed and extremely possessive in a relationship and you should avoid such people. For example, they will give you such a hard time when you just want to go out and spend time with your friends, a completely innocent time when nothing will happen, but they will lash out at you and cause a fight which is really unnecessary.

Jealous people are insecure and if you’re thinking about sticking around a jealous partner then you need a hell of a lot of patience, and believe me it will get really hard at times but you just have to help them through it. Think about it, are they so jealous because they love you immensely or are they so jealous because they are obsessed with you?

Break-ups

Going through a break up is really hard; it will continue to hurt even if the break up was quite a while ago as many people like to dwell on the idea of “what could have been.” From personal experience, I know that girls like to get over a break up by dressing slutty, going to a club, do something horrible and cry about it the next day. That’s just the wrong way to approach it and it wont be doing you any good. Instead, reflecting back on why the relationship ended is a better idea as it helps us to understand what went wrong; maybe it was an abusive relationship or either of you cheated or you just weren’t compatible enough etc.

It ended for a reason and that’s exactly why moving on is what will help you get over the break up. Turning to your family and friends will help; getting a make over and refreshing yourself will allow you to think of a new beginning and it will make you feel a lot better about yourself. Something people tend to have while they’re in a relationship is a routine; this significant other will take up a lot of your time during the day so now’s the time to gain all that wasted time back! Go to the gym or take up a new hobby or just relax and devote time to yourself.
Cry if you feel the need to, believe it or not crying will make you feel so sleepy and tired that you’ll just forget about everything and desire to be re-united with your bed. Trust.